It being the summer, it’s wedding season. I admit, it’s also less than a fortnight to my own wedding, and I’ve tried to avoid doing productive things like find a florist by diving into the coolest wedding traditions I can find, more obscure gems than just breaking a glass. There are lots of amazing ones that you can’t seem to find on the Internet, which seems mostly focused on explaining for the 613th time what a chuppah is. And so, here a few favorites I have gleaned:

Helping your friends find a match

Throwing a bouquet to give luck in finding a match is way too limited. Why leave that up to chance, when your most deserving, most eligible friend has to miss out because they didn’t play sports in High School? Jewish weddings are peppered with chances to distribute matchmaking mazel, and what’s more, the bride has the power to pick the recipients.

For example, in Ashkenazi tradition, women don’t wear jewelry under the chuppah during the ceremony. The sweet explanation is that a couple is marrying for partnership, not material gain, but this may also be because a formal part of the ceremony is the giving of a ring; it may be “legalistically” confusing for the bride to have other jewelry at the time she receives the ring.

But of course you’re going to wear jewelry at your wedding, so what do you do? Right before the ceremony, the bride may remove all of her other jewelry and give it to friends to hold. Those who have the honor of holding this jewelry are said to have extra luck in finding a spouse of their own.

The same applies to Jewish weddings where a plate is broken before the ceremony. If you can get a shard (careful with that!), more good luck.

Another one is that after dinner, the bride and groom share a drink of wine during birkat hamazon (grace after meals). If you can get a sip of that too, you share in their luck (and germs).

Plus, some brides pray the morning of their weddings, and collect names of people who want matches, healing, et cetera. Apparently, her prayers are super potent that day. Get in on that.

Henna Party

In some Sephardic and Mizrahi traditions, before her wedding, a bride is adorned with henna, in a layered and deeply meaningful event. This can include drumming, ululation, and fertility rituals. Also, henna body art is absolutely stunning.

DEMONS DEMONS DEMONS

It is absolutely amazing how much of Jewish wedding traditions involve fear of demons. Of course, the famous play The Dybbuk involves a bride suffering demonic possession, but her position as newlywed was not only chosen to create high drama. Demons in Judaism famously love ruining happy moments (babies pre-bris are also vulnerable), so you have to be ON GUARD for about a week up to the big day, or something terrible and demonic (e.g. possession) will occur.

A lot of the Jewish rituals you do know have alternate explanations based in demonology. Carrying candles (like in Fiddler on the Roof)? Demons hate light. Marrying under a canopy? Protect the couple from demons. Breaking a glass? Demons hate that sort of thing, apparently. Circling your spouse-to-be at the start of the ceremony? Creating an anti-demonic force-field. The above-mentioned henna party? It also protects against demons!

But maybe my absolute favorite has been the role of bridesmaids in the wedding. I’ve heard a lot of variations on this custom, but the gist is that you can’t leave a bride alone, and therefore vulnerable to dybbuks or other nasties. Some say that for a week before the wedding, the bride needs constant surveillance, perhaps by a friend or family member serving as a bridesmaid. At the very least, the night before her wedding, a bride should not sleep alone (one friend had to share her sister’s bed to protect her for this very reason).

Imagine the movie Bridesmaids crossed with Ghostbusters— Kristen Wiig is in both after all, and has a Jewish boyfriend. She should definitely star in a movie about a friend asked to serve as maid of honor for her Jewish friend’s wedding, only to find out that fighting demons comes with the job description.

Hollywood, call me.

If you have other great Jewish wedding traditions, please comment below, or tweet us @Jewcymag!

Images: Still from film The Dybbuk. Henna image via Pixabay.

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Actor and SNL-alum Kristen Wiig has a new flame, and she’s displaying great taste by having a Jewish boyfriend.

The upcoming star of the Ghostbusters reboot was spotted in Hawaii with one Avi Rothman, and apparently they’ve been together for some months now.

What do we know about Avi Rothman? The mainstream media has reported precious little, but he is a comedian, like Wiig. Like her, he got his start with the famous comedy group the Groundlings, and he’s a writer, producer, director, you name it.

However, we here at Jewcy were unsatisfied with his IMDB page, and kept searching. Baruch HaShem, we found the most Jewish coverage of him possible from a few years back: A single’s profile.

Rothman’s friend and comedic partner Seth Menachem wrote a column for the LA Jewish Journal, entitled “My Single Peeps,” in which he introduced eligible friends. He wrote the stories; Rothman took photos of the subjects. For one piece, Menachem turned the tables, and interviewed Rothman.

“Avi’s a good-looking guy. He’s funny. He’s tall. He attracts women easily,” wrote Menachem. “Of course, he has some flaws. He’s shy, so if he sees a girl he’s interested in, he’s terrible at approaching her… most of us just want him to start dating more than usual, so whatever you write and whatever you look like, we’ll probably give him the green light.”

Menachem continued:

“Despite being a good-looking actor in Hollywood, Avi’s a loyal boyfriend. You wouldn’t have to worry about him fooling around with other women. He’s loyal, and he wants to commit to the right girl.

“He’s extremely sensitive — a double-edged character trait, which makes him both susceptible to getting his feelings hurt easily and also intuitive enough to pick up on the feelings of others.”

Although the column ends with a contact if Avi peaks your interest, apparently it didn’t work well enough that he wasn’t available for Wiig.  We wish them much mazel, and perhaps a boost in Rothman’s career.

Much of his old work can be found online, and we leave you with this old skit of Rothman and Menachem:

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